As a newly single 50 something year old, it can be quite hard finding single men.  I decided to give online dating a go.  The men I have met in person have been wonderful, and although I haven’t met anyone that a potential relationship will develop, I’ve made some friends.  One friend is now engaged to a woman he met through one of the dating websites, and I was cheering him along the whole way!  

There have been some interesting profiles of people I haven’t met.  On a Christian site, one guy put a “prayer test” in his profile.  He asked women who were interested in him to read certain Bible passages, pray, and ask God to tell them a special thing, a “secret code” if you will, and get back to him, so he will know that woman is God’s choosing.  It was very detailed.  Several guys tell you how handsome they are.  Well, there’s a picture right there.  Don’t they think we women can decide that for ourselves?  And what is it about men and their hair?  On these sites, you describe yourself.  Invariably, guys will say “brown hair” or “black hair” when in their pictures, it is clearly gray.  When they look in a mirror, do they just see what it used to look like?  Besides describing yourself, you can also describe who you would be interested in, as in age, ethnicity, etc.   One guy wrote right at the beginning of his profile “if you have ever dated or married anyone a different color than me, pass me by.”  Really?  Really???  So far, I haven’t, but I passed him by.

The two most interesting ones I’ve seen were not on a Christian site.  One was a woman’s profile…..or at least I THOUGHT it was.  Turned out to be a cross-dressing heterosexual man looking for a woman who would be accepting.  He posted a picture of himself dressed as a man and another as a woman.  

The other one read as follows: (names have been changed)
I have been by myself /divorced for 8 years. Ex-wife (Jane Smith) had an on-going affair with John Doe  (married), and several other married men, thus the reason for the divorce in 2004. I have no bitterness or anger at all. I am ready to “start over” with someone special. 

 Court document speaks for itself. My ex-wife and Joe Jones’ ex-wife were BOTH having affairs at the SAME TIME with John Doe as court documents show, then he had another affair with Marge Simpson while she was married too!! Click on link to read....

And it gives a link to a website.  I think I detect a slight hint of bitterness and/or anger there!

 And lastly, at least 75% of guys 50 – 60 years old have motorcycles.  What’s with that?!  Now honestly, can you see me hanging on for dear life on the back of a motorcycle?!  If anyone reading this is a man thinking about doing online dating, let a woman proofread your profile.  Grammar and spelling matter.  It’s a ‘quiet’ evening, not a ‘quite’ evening.  And you ‘sit’ in front of a fire, not ‘set’ in front of it.  Oh, and guys, look in a mirror.  It really is OK to have gray hair!